Have You Ever Had An “UN” Day?

Today I am having an “un” day. “What the heck is that?” you ask. Well I know you have all had them to one degree or another. Today, I am feeling uncared for, unliked, unloved, unconnected, unsupported, uninspired, unmotivated, unproductive, and just UN!

Now, often on days like this, we say we are “depressed”. I don’t like using that word or diagnosis because it seems to be a statement of truth, a sentencing of ourselves to a more permanent state of being. It can seem like something that we have no say about how to fix it. It can become chronic when we put a label on it. “I AM DEPRESSED” declares to your mind, your heart, your soul, and to others that it is permanent or might need medication as the only way to become undepressed.

But, if you say “I am feeling un…(insert feeling)”, then you have access to fixing that. For example: If I say I am feeling unloved, I can reach out and talk to someone who I know loves me. It forces me to question if the statement that “I am unloved” is true. It is still malleable, still fixable and when I can look at it and own it, I then have power over it. Each of the things I mentioned above is fixable and I’m going to explain how in this blog.

WHAT I REALIZED WHILE HAVING AN “UN” DAY

First I noticed that I wasn’t feeling like myself and didn’t have the energy and drive that I wanted to have. I stopped to look at that. At first, I started to say “I am depressed” and then I realized that was not a great thing to call myself and I realized that I have a choice about what I call myself and how I determine who I am and what is going on with me.

Also, the words “I AM” are the most powerful words we can speak in declaring who we are in the world and we throw them out as if they mean nothing. To say, “I AM depressed” declares to our own mind, our higher self, the Universe, Divine, God as that. All of these respond to us based on what we declare. When we know this, we will watch what we say about ourselves. Better to declare, “I AM perfect, whole, and complete just the way I AM.” Or even more simply, “I AM loved, always.

Then, I asked myself, “What am I really feeling?” “What is going on with me that makes me want to declare that I am depressed.” And “What happened that started me feeling this way?

I rolled back my day in my mind and this is what I discovered. I woke up and was deciding whether to go to a group get-together at my friend’s house to play a game and have lunch with friends or to get online for a service at my Spiritual Center. I decided I wanted the fun, in-person interaction with my friends here rather than the online experience today.

I noticed there was a message for the group in WhatsApp and figured it was letting all of us know that the group was happening today. It sort of was but it was also one person asking another person if she needed a ride. This person doesn’t have a car and neither do I. But, every week this other person asks her if she needs a ride but never asks me if I need one. On one hand, I tell myself I shouldn’t take it personally and I didn’t the first time it happened but now it is happening over and over. That is when I started feeling uncared about, uncared for and unliked.

You know how once we start to feel bad, we start looking for other evidence that this is true to justify our right to feel this way.  First, I started thinking about how I had sent two texts to a friend and she hadn’t responded to either one so in my mind she clearly didn’t even care (uncared for). At that point, I had no capacity to think about her and what might be going on with her. I wasn’t able to get to a place of compassion and understanding of her situation.

Then, I started thinking about how I have lived in Costa Rica for a year and a half, and not one friend and only one family member had come to see me. That confirmed in my mind, heart, and soul that I really was unloved, unliked, uncared about, and uncared for.

See how our mind starts to gather “evidence” for how we are justified in our feelings, thoughts, opinions, and decisions. That becomes more important than moving past our feelings. If you are reading this and saying to yourself, “I don’t do that. I don’t need to be right or justify my feelings because…” If you are arguing with this comment, then you are definitely doing that. Think about the last time you were feeling “un” and how did you cope with it.

At this point, I got very sleepy and decided I was going to lie down and take a little nap before getting ready for the get-together. Have you ever noticed how when something is troubling you and especially if you aren’t sure what to do about it, you just want to go lie down and take a nap?  

 You might ask, why would I even bother to go there to be with those people? Well, because I am committed to not entertaining negative thoughts and figured if I go maybe I will have a good time and my negative thoughts will get turned around. But, alas, I didn’t take a short nap, I took a two-hour one, and even at that point, I wasn’t ready to get up and go be with people who I thought or imagined didn’t care about me.

WHAT I DID TO TURN AROUND MY “UN” DAY

I decided what would make me feel better is to get some work done, edit my book, and work on my retreat or my website at the least. That was when I noticed, I was having additional “un’s” on this “UN” day. I was unmotivated, uninspired, unexcited, and unproductive and I noticed this wasn’t the first day I had been feeling this way. It was becoming a habit. Being a teacher, a trainer, a coach, I realized this was unacceptable. This is, of course, one of those good “un’s”.

Now, what to do about this? I knew the first thing I had to do was get out of bed, stand up, walk around, get my body moving. I did that for a bit, then I felt like I could go back and sit down, but not lie down. I decided I needed to meditate. So I lit my candle, incense and put on my favorite meditation music, and meditated for 20 minutes. I picked up my phone at the end and it had the number 444 on it. I knew that this meant that my angels were nearby and were reminding me that I Am loved, cared for, cared about and connected to them. I knew it was time for me to connect with my angels and get their guidance about how I was feeling today.

I consulted two Oracle Decks: The first message I received was about the Cloak of Wisdom and said, “You have been on a wandering path trying to find the answers through study and insight from others, but now you are uncovering the truth of your own soul. Your soul is leading the way and you are being encouraged to follow. The fog is clearing. The light has come and is shining on you – it’s your cheerleader. Follow it and trust the endless wisdom within you. Go, go, go!” This is the second time I have received this card out of 45 cards in the last couple of weeks! Message received!

Then I consulted Archangel Metatron who I feel connected to and guided by. Here was that message: Wake-Up Call – Listen and Take Note. This was a long message but the most important part for me today is this: The Wake-Up Call signals that one way of doing life is now over. You need to prepare for the new, and it will be done for the highest good for you and anyone else involved. What seems difficult and at times impossible will be made easier for you. There is still a short time to prepare, to evaluate, to gather your strength…but the winds of change are here, and time is running out. Metatron reaches out his arms to help carry you with grace to the next stage of your journey. As the call by you is heeded, the skies lighten, the golden rays come back to you, and the light pierces the darkness to reveal a new vision – a new life, a new possibility.

Today this message for me was about how I was feeling and the situation that led to it is: I have a lot of Wisdom within me and my goal in this phase of my life is to impart as much of it as I can and help as many people as I can before I move into my next phase of my existence. My time is best spent in the company of those who love me, care about and for me, and who see the value I bring. I can make a bigger difference in the world by writing and coaching than I can by having a pity party.

I realized that people will only value me as much as I value myself. When we are feeling “un” it is an inside job. I need to value myself and focus on where I can make a difference. This was a very clear message as far as I am concerned and I’m feeling more motivated and inspired than I have in quite some time.

I hope this message has helped you in some way as well. I am always available to you as well for coaching and inspiration. You can set up a free ½ hour coaching consultation or Angle Communication Reading with me by clicking here 

WISHING YOU MANY AMAZING DAYS AND THE POWER TO MOVE QUICKLY THROUGH ANY “UN” DAYS YOU MIGHT ENCOUNTER